Officer Wes, Daddy
Barry, dog & slave frank
Fun-loving men in San
We have a leather
family built around shared values:
Respect | Honor |
Trust | Love
BDSM / kink / leather / fetish information & resources
Quick links / site map
Rope and bondage including
How to Make a Rope Harness (by Ropeman)
About our leather family
I knew I wanted gentle, sexy, dog as my slave
from the moment I first saw him in San Diego in 2003. That happened within a
year. But he relocated to Florida circa 2007 to save his home there during the
housing crash, which hit his area near NASA sooner than elsewhere due to
layoffs. He visited San Diego about twice a year every year in the meantime.
Finally, in 2017, the market had recovered enough. Daddy Barry, dog and I
decided to sell the "doghouse," and move him back to San Diego. This
also involved, as a practical matter, that we move as well -- we simply needed
a bit more space. I feel incredibly blessed to have these good men in my life.
How MASTER Wes & cherished former slave, dave (now known as "Deputy"), developed into MASTER & slave.
Tom was Officer Wes' partner 1991-2008. (He died 12 years later in 2020. More information at Officer
Wes' memorial page.)
jay was Officer Wes' boy, then slave, from
Some of the important men in our lives have had
contracts. Here are those contracts, most recent first
(Former Austin slave, boy tim, noted in multiple
contracts below, died years later in August 2006. More information at Officer
Wes' memorial page.)
Moving in together decreased the erotic charge
for MASTER Wes and boy tim. We ultimately decided to
try to un-do what we'd done. Here we share the details from our September-October, 2000 in case it can be helpful to you. And
here is an update
MASTER Wes' and dave's second contract, January 1, 1999 - (see
MASTER Wes' and dave's first contract, July 18, 1998 - December
a resource prepared for gay leathermen
and leatherdykes in San Diego. May broader audiences also find it useful.
benefits we get from having edgy, sexy play.
including an entire presentation and an
abbreviated compilation of resources for learning more about
spirit/spirituality and leather.
including lifestyle & education,
police/uniform, boots, rope & bondage, shopping, whips, rubber, body
modifications, straight razor shaving, Leather/SM pictures and stories, and
activities in Austin (where we used to live).
Dominance and submission & Mastery and
Wondering about some of the differences in the
nuances of submission? Read The Nine Degrees Of Submission.
A checklist is one way to identify boundaries
for oneself and communicate that information with a potential partner. Here is Officer
Wes' play partner checklist. (Do not send one of these unsolicited
and expect any form of response.)
What about when you have a dear man who desires
to submit to you but needs help focusing?
Officer Wes loves good looking uniforms. Here is
the e-handout he provides when presenting on uniforms.
Officer Wes has been sharing his expertise in
the erotic uses of electricity since 1993. Here's the Erotic Electrical
presentation handout and the High-End Electrical presentation handout he uses as they
stand today. From way back in '98, here's a review of an
electricity demo that provides a better overall view given the lack
of an interactive demonstration here.
resources including How to Make a Rope Harness
Dungeon parties / play parties & release
If you are new to BDSM parties, you might want
to read the Discipline Corps' well-written and more-extensive Play Party Etiquette.
If you go to a BDSM party, chances are good you will
have to sign a release if you want entrance. Why are releases needed? In part
to explicitly limit liability so that parties are feasible. Also in part
because play parties can get raided and the existence of proof-of-age and
informed consent helps minimize those two areas as issues. Raids still happen.
One modern raid was in Attleboro "Paddleboro"
Massachusetts. Another was in San Diego, California, with a group called Club X.
Want to help or learn more about sexual freedom? Check out the National
Coalition for Sexual Freedom.
Officer Wes and Tom hosted a small, private, bimonthly,
men's dungeon party from October 2001 - October 2002. We are keeping the
resources below to help others who wish to host similar parties:
Here was the house dungeon release that anyone wishing
to attend had to sign.
Here was more information about the Austin men's party.
Daddy Barry and our leather family
Mastery / slavery
Dominance / submission
Not interested in
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